XOXO Brittany: low self esteem

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhbTZSsv9hXnMospQUJyR-XJiJvuvKg9q5EB8v1xxsEBqGcvPxVxTPWpEqB6xnfd4sskSfH-h6u1NjOljVqUZbmSXogMlINgEzYDaZ2518UKpchyphenhyphenn75G1c657lZ-b3h5sLMn1RYGBwVio35/s1600/tbs.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhbTZSsv9hXnMospQUJyR-XJiJvuvKg9q5EB8v1xxsEBqGcvPxVxTPWpEqB6xnfd4sskSfH-h6u1NjOljVqUZbmSXogMlINgEzYDaZ2518UKpchyphenhyphenn75G1c657lZ-b3h5sLMn1RYGBwVio35/s1600/tbs.png" width="468" /></a></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<br /></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Building off of yesterdays post I have 5 more tips to help anyone overcome low self esteem. I am not in any way a psychiatrist or psychologist but I have used these tips myself and they have worked. </span></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
<b><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">7. Be quick to forgive</span></b></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I know many times when someone hurts us we tend to hold on to that pain and anger and sometimes for years. One thing I do know is you can never move on with your life or from any situation without forgiveness. Forgive that person for bullying you, that classmate who called you fat or your mom for tearing you down. The longer you dwell on that pain the longer you give it power over your life and the harder it will be to move. I always make sure that if someone hurts me, I always forgive them within the first 5 minutes of being angry. What can that anger do for me? Nothing, its not adding to my life so I might as well get rid of it. Do yourself a favor and FORGIVE!</span></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
<b><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">8. Fall in love with yourself</span></b></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Since you can't escape you and you bring yourself everywhere you go, you might as well love your self. Take some time away from social media, friends and any distracts and go to quite place and enjoy the presence of yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror and admire your beauty. Make peace with your thighs and start admiring the positive things about you. Find one thing that you love about yourself everyday, thank God you have that beautiful feature and soon enough you'll begin to look at those places you once despised in a new light. </span></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
<b><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">9.Don't look to others to make you happy</span></b></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">This is a big thing most young girls find themselves doing. Looking to a man or your friends to make you happy. First, I want to say if you are not happy yourself NO ONE will ever be able to make you happy. No matter how hard they try it just won't be enough for you. If you think about it, who wants to be in a relationship with someone who isn't happy, that baggage will eventually bring the other person down. I don't want to be in any relationship with a angry, grumpy, or sad man who complains about how much I don't make him happy or how I'm not giving him what he needs. No, what he needs is a new attitude. Imagine being friends with someone like that, would you want that type of friend. Then don't be that friend to someone else. Every relationship, whether work related, or personal is about a mutual exchange. It's about what can you both bring to the table, how can I enhance your life, how can I help you in the areas where you are weak. Not about what you can do me and if you can't then peace! Examine your heart to see if you are truly happy with yourself or are you seeking someone to meet your needs and make you happy. If so then you need to do some soul searching and start making yourself happy and then you'll be able to share your happiness with others. </span></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
<b><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">10. Write yourself love notes</span></b></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I love doing this! Find a stack of post-its, write yourself love notes and put them around your room, in your bathroom or on the fridge. I would write things like; you're beautiful, you're the bomb.com or God made you perfect so enjoy yourself. Try it!</span></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
<b><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">11. Wake up every morning and tell yourself you are beautiful</span></b></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">What you think and say in the morning will the determine your mood for the rest of the day. If you wake up saying "Oh great Monday,another day at my job hearing people complain, I'm so sick of this." Then your day will suck, I will tell you that. But if you start your morning saying" Thank you Lord for waking me up today, today is going to be a great day, its beautiful outside and I'm beautiful," you're going to have a awesome day! Even if you're having a bad hair day, look in the mirror and say "oh well  at least I still look cute." Look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself you are beautiful. If you do that long enough, no one is going to be about to tell you nothing!</span></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I hope this series will inspire someone to break free from the burden of low self-esteem. I would love to hear from you if you want to share your story with me or if you need someone to talk to. Feel free to contact me by email. </span></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiySZOAXQmgAXub1OLqCBz8Nxj2eZ3Dy0NmIY_ikJINFwOLjOt6L4Va-_XgYZMX-effQHRiP8oleycztPuKU-sfW87dCqGG3StoSYLzS0y83YH4Tk4fMaBtBWHaZuhZp8vd-3EgbMtsgtaD/s1600/endtag2.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="101" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiySZOAXQmgAXub1OLqCBz8Nxj2eZ3Dy0NmIY_ikJINFwOLjOt6L4Va-_XgYZMX-effQHRiP8oleycztPuKU-sfW87dCqGG3StoSYLzS0y83YH4Tk4fMaBtBWHaZuhZp8vd-3EgbMtsgtaD/s1600/endtag2.png" width="320" /></a></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<br /></div>
<br />

beautiful, beauty, confidence, freedom, friendship, girls, God, help, love, low self esteem, trust, women

The Beauty Series: How to overcome low self-esteem PT 2

Building off of yesterdays post I have 5 more tips to help anyone overcome low self esteem. I am not in any way a psychiatrist or psych...

<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><img border="0" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjziLOxMb78RljVLSWzIPWJbo7iQjh8Fqt9R4D9dx87q1MBXBsuJddx5nvGK7BXdOoesLRbWDdnYvlb9DBZegpgO17J9FiivY140agtcuiPC46aUmH8PX32QOKSP8RvyrOBg6sp6Bahdf0u/s1600/beauty.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;" width="468" /></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://tartecosmetics.com/wallpapers#wallpaper:9" target="_blank">Photo source </a></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">For many years I struggled to like myself, constantly being reminded
of how imperfect I was and how I wished I could be someone else. It’s hard to
imagine a 9 year old on having these thoughts but imagine it stretching over a
period of 8 or more years. Too embarrassed to wear a bathing suit in public because
you are too ashamed of having stretch marks. Or looking to video girls with awe
in hopes to one day have your beauty worshipped by the likes of those who could
care less about how you look. Forget having low self-esteem I had NO
self-esteem.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Low self-esteem is a disease that is crippling our
communities today and especially the youth. Living in a society that portrays
beauty from a one dimensional aspect bears its toll on this current generation’s
self-esteem and it makes me wonder, what do people think real beauty looks
like? As my 23 year old self, looking back at my 9 year old self, I wish I
could go back tell myself how beautiful I am and that no magazine, model or superficial
standard can define how beautiful I am. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It wasn’t until 11<sup>th</sup> grade until I actually
thought I was “pretty.” I remember one instance where a great friend of mine
would tell me every day I was pretty and I mean every day! One day we were in
the bathroom and she said to me “Brittany you are so beautiful,” and I looked
at her perplexed and replied “why do you keep saying that.” She looked at me,
smiled and said “because you are!”  It
was at that very moment that I realized, hey maybe I am beautiful and that
there was truth to what my friend was saying. And from that day forward I decided
to not live in the shadow of low self-esteem, but rather in the light of
beauty. That was back in 2006, fast forward to 2014 I am free from the bondage
of no/ low self-esteem and I love every inch, every curve, every stretch mark,
every pimple, every piece of me. I wouldn’t change who I am for the world. It
hasn’t been easy over the years but I just had to come to the realization that
God loves me, he made me perfect and how dare I look at myself with disgust,
this piece of art, which he took the time to stitch together piece by piece,
limb by limb with love. It’s crazy I know. With all that being said I know
there are so many 9 year old ME’s out there and if you’re reading this post I
want you to know God loves you, I love you and you ARE BEAUTIFUL. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">As I was planning out posts for my blog, I came across an
idea to do a blog series. Not just any blog series but a blog series about
beauty, what defines it, what people think of it and how to live in it? So this
is day one, how to overcome low self-esteem. You can be free and you can fall
in love with yourself, it is possible and I want to share some of the things
that helped me overcome this burden of low self-esteem.</span></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0px;">
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: -0.25in;"><b><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">1.Know for a
fact that God loves you</span></b></span></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I know low self-esteem is a personal issue and people
typically wouldn’t think the love of God had anything to do with it, but it
does. Genesis 1:27 reminds us that God created man in his own image. Gods own
image is perfect, so that means if you were made in the image of God, then you
were made perfect. Just think about it, when God created anything is made sure
it was <i>good, </i>so if he took the time
to make the birds and flowers perfect, why wouldn’t he take the time to make
you perfect. God loves you so much and once you realize that then your healing
can begin.</span></span></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="text-indent: 0px;">
<b><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="line-height: 18.399999618530273px;">2. </span><span style="font-size: 7pt;">  </span></span><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: -0.25in;">Realize you
are not the only one with flaws</span></span></b></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">For some reason I was convinced that I was the only
one in the world with stretch marks and acne and that everyone else in the
world had perfect skin. This is the absolute furthest thing from the truth.
Everyone has scars, everyone had flaws, and you are not the only one. And if
someone can go out in their bathing suit with cellulite and stretchmark’s and
not have a care in the world, then so can you. WHO CARES WHAT PEOPLE THINK (which
leads me to my next point)<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<b style="text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span></span></b></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><b style="text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"> 3.<span style="font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal;">  </span></span></b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: -0.25in;"><b>STOP caring
about what people think or say</b></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I know that as a woman and young girl, you want to be
liked by boys and to be accepted by everyone, but if they don’t like you for
who you are then FORGET them, they suck anyway, because you’re awesome. You
have to learn to guard your mind because that is where we win or lose the
battle. What usually happens is, when someone says something negative about
you, you hear those words, they’ll infiltrate your thoughts, and you’ll either
get really mad or really sad about it. If you marinate of those thoughts long
enough sometimes you’ll hear yourself start to say them and then you’ll
eventually believe them. This is how the cycle starts but you have to tear down
those negative thoughts and replace them with positive words. Tell yourself you
are beautiful everyday out loud; use your words to create the outcomes you
desire. And eventually your feelings with catch up with your words.</span></span></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="text-indent: 0px;">
<b><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="line-height: 18.399999618530273px;">4.</span><span style="font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: -0.25in;">Don’t go
seeking validation</span></span></b></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">A lot of the times when girls don’t feel beautiful,
they’ll go out and look for validation in all the wrong places. Indulging in promiscuous
behavior with the hopes of finding that true self love that they’re desperately
seeking. You have to come to the realization that you are enough and you don’t
need 200 likes on instagram and 30 comments from guys saying how “BAD” you are.
Because even if I only get 2 likes I still know that I am the bomb!</span></span></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="text-indent: 0px;">
<b><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="line-height: 18.399999618530273px;">5. </span><span style="font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: -0.25in;">Love your
skin, literally!</span></span></b></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 115%;">Your skin is the most visible part of you and I know
how much woman try so hard to make sure they have the perfect skin but even if
you don’t its </span></span><span style="line-height: 18.399999618530273px;">OK</span><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 115%;">. If you have a face full of freckles, wear them proudly, show
them off, they are beautiful! Do you have skin discoloration, trust me you’re not
the only one, 75% of my back is lighter than the rest of my body, who cares! Do
you have acne scars, so do you and the other 100 million teenagers in the world,
its’ life. All I’m saying is yes there are healthy things you can do to improve
your skin, we should all be taking care of our skin. But if there’s nothing than
can be done about it, like those pesky stretch marks, well then Beyoncé said it
best “IF YOU GOT IT FLAUNT IT!”</span></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><br /></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="text-indent: 0px;">
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; text-indent: -0.25in;"><b><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">6. Stop
comparing yourself to other people</span></b></span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast">
<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">You are never going to be able to be someone else. It’s
the truth and the only person you can ever be is you. You are stuck with
yourself forever, so you might as well start enjoying yourself. If you see
another girl with a beautiful feature, compliment her and keep it moving. But
also know you have just as many beautiful features as she does, so stop
comparing and start embracing! </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>

be yourself, beauty, body image, girls, health, love, love yourself, low self esteem, women, youth

The Beauty Series: Low Self-Esteem PT 1

Photo source For many years I struggled to like myself, constantly being reminded of how imperfect I was and how I wished I could be ...

Pages

Posted by Unknown Tuesday, June 10, 2014

The Beauty Series: How to overcome low self-esteem PT 2

Posted by Unknown Monday, June 9, 2014

The Beauty Series: Low Self-Esteem PT 1

Follow @_glitterplay